My best friend/unofficial brother directed me to a thoughtful blog by a young Army Infantry officer who is currently stationed in Washington state. He relates a sad story about what happened to one of his soldiers when caught up in the snare of the "Nanny state." It is, some would say, off topic for this blog. I don't think so. It is a cautionary tale, and we should pay attention to that. But it is also a measure of how invasive and out-of-control the collectivists have become. To use River Tam's phrase, "They meddle," and they never cease meddling. One aspect of the Restoration, e'er we see it, will be a restoration of common sense in the judiciary.
03 February 2009
When an "I'm Sorry" doesn't cut it.
Imagine a young couple, married for close to five years get in an argument. The argument gets hot enough that the husband tries to leave, take the dog for a walk and blow off some steam. His wife tries to stop him and he pushes her out of his way.
This isn't healthy behavior, but it is all pretty "normal" for a young couple. What is abnormal is that she got so angry that she called 911. This is where our story takes a turn and starts involving me.
The State of Washington has some of the harshest Domestic Violence laws and procedures in the union. This couple found out by experience that when a woman calls 911 because her husband pushed her, he's very likely going to jail. The policy is that if 911 is called for domestic violence then SOMEONE is going to jail, and most of the time that is the male.
When I visited her last night she didn't want anything bad to happen to her husband, she didn't want him to lose his 2nd Ammendment rights, didn't want him to lose his career. The only problem with that is it is all out of her hands now. She cried again when I explained that her husband had a "No Contact" order for more than a month. He can't go home, play with his dogs, or even see her.
This is not the outcome that she wanted, but this is the outcome that happens in the State of Washington. She misses him so much that she is sleeping on the couch wrapped up in his poncho liner. He would never hit her, never abuse her, never demean her, and she knows that. What she wants now is for all this to go away so she can have her husband back. But she can't have her husband back because the court ordered him and his Chain of Command ordered him to stay away.
Womens rights have come a long way, but that doesn't mean that flexing those rights is going to get you what you want. In this state is isn't uncommon for a Judge to rule on what THE JUDGE thinks is in the best interest of the woman no matter what SHE WANTS. Dysfunctional relationships have put women in abusive positions for so long that our legal system has no problem stepping in and telling women that "you may think you want to drop charges, but we are going to press charges on your behalf because it is really in your best interest". Tell me where the "women's rights" are in that?
If you ever want to be grateful for the life you live, spend a day sitting in Family Court in your county. The way people treat each other, the terrible things they do to each other, all to hurt each other using the law as a weapon. It breaks my heart. In this case she didn't mean to unleash an unstoppable machine down on her husband, but there is no "off switch" for the Nanny State.