CetmeModeloC sends me this email asking a very important question. Do any of you Three Percenters have answers?
There comes a time when a person, no matter how self-sufficient, finds that they need the assistance of another. Sometimes it is for lack of a tool or a book that can only be obtained, (legitimately), through someone "in the know" or with certain connections or affiliations. Sometimes it is just the need to partner with someone to bounce ideas, plans or suggestions off of. Or maybe someone to trust and train with.
The solution usually given to this quandary is for the person to establish a "network" of friends that can help and serve as a resource.
That is well and good for the gregarious types, (who can make friends with most anyone), but where does it leave the more insular, meditative, (if not paranoid), types that need a lot of reassurance before trusting someone?
You know the ones. The ones who seem to be very reserved or shy but when they open up are a wealth of obscure, arcane or even highly technical knowledge. The ones that seem to have plenty of "acquaintances", (which many may mistake as "friends" of that person but really aren't. Remember what a true friend will do for you in comparison to a mere acquaintance), but no true friends, (or very few). The ones that try to make do alone before finally, (recognizing the futility of a team of one), have to reach out to someone for assistance but hold back since they are not sure who to trust.
To gain trust one must give trust but to give trust one must be sure of who one is trusting. Catch 22?
Where are these "forgotten ones" to turn when they need assistance? How about a more important question? Are these resources being wasted because they are not effectively being found, identified and their skills utilized?