Wednesday, December 3, 2008

On Sheep, Wolves and Sheepdogs

Folks,

I have been using the wolf, sheep, sheepdog metaphor for many years now but it was only recently that I discovered others were doing the same thing, often in words more learned and eloquent than my own. I have previously discussed the works of LTC Dave Grossman. Here is a portion of his book, On Combat.

On Sheep, Wolves and Sheepdogs

(From the book, On Combat, by Lt. Col. Dave Grossman)

"Honor never grows old, and honor rejoices the heart of age. It does so because honor is, finally, about defending those noble and worthy things that deserve defending, even if it comes at a high cost. In our time, that may mean social disapproval, public scorn, hardship, persecution, or as always, even death itself.
The question remains: What is worth defending? What is worth dying for? What is worth living for?"

- William J. Bennett In a lecture to the United States Naval Academy, November 24, 1997

One Vietnam veteran, an old retired colonel, once said this to me: “Most of the people in our society are sheep. They are kind, gentle, productive creatures who can only hurt one another by accident.” This is true. Remember, the murder rate is six per 100,000 per year, and the aggravated assault rate is four per 1,000 per year. What this means is that the vast majority of Americans are not inclined to hurt one another.

Some estimates say that two million Americans are victims of violent crimes every year, a tragic, staggering number, perhaps an all-time record rate of violent crime. But there are almost 300 million Americans, which means that the odds of being a victim of violent crime is considerably less than one in a hundred on any given year. Furthermore, since many violent crimes are committed by repeat offenders, the actual number of violent citizens is considerably less than two million.

Thus there is a paradox, and we must grasp both ends of the situation: We may well be in the most violent times in history, but violence is still remarkably rare. This is because most citizens are kind, decent people who are not capable of hurting each other, except by accident or under extreme provocation. They are sheep.

I mean nothing negative by calling them sheep. To me it is like the pretty, blue robin’s egg. Inside it is soft and gooey but someday it will grow into something wonderful. But the egg cannot survive without its hard blue shell. Police officers, soldiers and other warriors are like that shell, and someday the civilization they protect will grow into something wonderful. For now, though, they need warriors to protect them from the predators.

“Then there are the wolves,” the old war veteran said, “and the wolves feed on the sheep without mercy.” Do you believe there are wolves out there who will feed on the flock without mercy? You better believe it. There are evil men in this world and they are capable of evil deeds. The moment you forget that or pretend it is not so, you become a sheep. There is no safety in denial.

“Then there are sheepdogs,” he went on, “and I’m a sheepdog. I live to protect the flock and confront the wolf.” Or, as a sign in one California law enforcement agency put it, “We intimidate those who intimidate others.”

If you have no capacity for violence then you are a healthy productive citizen: a sheep. If you have a capacity for violence and no empathy for your fellow citizens, then you have defined an aggressive sociopath--a wolf. But what if you have a capacity for violence, and a deep love for your fellow citizens? Then you are a sheepdog, a warrior, someone who is walking the hero’s path. Someone who can walk into the heart of darkness, into the universal human phobia, and walk out unscathed.

The gift of aggression

"What goes on around you... compares little with what goes on inside you."
- Ralph Waldo Emerson

Everyone has been given a gift in life. Some people have a gift for science and some have a flair for art. And warriors have been given the gift of aggression. They would no more misuse this gift than a doctor would misuse his healing arts, but they yearn for the opportunity to use their gift to help others. These people, the ones who have been blessed with the gift of aggression and a love for others, are our sheepdogs. These are our warriors.

One career police officer wrote to me about this after attending one of my Bulletproof Mind training sessions:

"I want to say thank you for finally shedding some light on why it is that I can do what I do. I always knew why I did it. I love my [citizens], even the bad ones, and had a talent that I could return to my community. I just couldn’t put my finger on why I could wade through the chaos, the gore, the sadness, if given a chance try to make it all better, and walk right out the other side."

Let me expand on this old soldier’s excellent model of the sheep, wolves, and sheepdogs. We know that the sheep live in denial; that is what makes them sheep. They do not want to believe that there is evil in the world. They can accept the fact that fires can happen, which is why they want fire extinguishers, fire sprinklers, fire alarms and fire exits throughout their kids’ schools. But many of them are outraged at the idea of putting an armed police officer in their kid’s school. Our children are dozens of times more likely to be killed, and thousands of times more likely to be seriously injured, by school violence than by school fires, but the sheep’s only response to the possibility of violence is denial. The idea of someone coming to kill or harm their children is just too hard, so they choose the path of denial.

The sheep generally do not like the sheepdog. He looks a lot like the wolf. He has fangs and the capacity for violence. The difference, though, is that the sheepdog must not, cannot and will not ever harm the sheep. Any sheepdog who intentionally harms the lowliest little lamb will be punished and removed. The world cannot work any other way, at least not in a representative democracy or a republic such as ours.

Still, the sheepdog disturbs the sheep. He is a constant reminder that there are wolves in the land. They would prefer that he didn’t tell them where to go, or give them traffic tickets, or stand at the ready in our airports in camouflage fatigues holding an M-16. The sheep would much rather have the sheepdog cash in his fangs, spray paint himself white, and go, “Baa.”

Until the wolf shows up. Then the entire flock tries desperately to hide behind one lonely sheepdog. As Kipling said in his poem about “Tommy” the British soldier:

While it's Tommy this, an' Tommy that, an' "Tommy, fall be'ind,"
But it's "Please to walk in front, sir," when there's trouble in the wind,
There's trouble in the wind, my boys, there's trouble in the wind,
O it's "Please to walk in front, sir," when there's trouble in the wind.


The students, the victims, at Columbine High School were big, tough high school students, and under ordinary circumstances they would not have had the time of day for a police officer. They were not bad kids; they just had nothing to say to a cop. When the school was under attack, however, and SWAT teams were clearing the rooms and hallways, the officers had to physically peel those clinging, sobbing kids off of them. This is how the little lambs feel about their sheepdog when the wolf is at the door. Look at what happened after September 11, 2001, when the wolf pounded hard on the door. Remember how America, more than ever before, felt differently about their law enforcement officers and military personnel? Remember how many times you heard the word hero?

Understand that there is nothing morally superior about being a sheepdog; it is just what you choose to be. Also understand that a sheepdog is a funny critter: He is always sniffing around out on the perimeter, checking the breeze, barking at things that go bump in the night, and yearning for a righteous battle. That is, the young sheepdogs yearn for a righteous battle. The old sheepdogs are a little older and wiser, but they move to the sound of the guns when needed right along with the young ones.

Here is how the sheep and the sheepdog think differently. The sheep pretend the wolf will never come, but the sheepdog lives for that day. After the attacks on September 11, 2001, most of the sheep, that is, most citizens in America said, “Thank God I wasn’t on one of those planes.” The sheepdogs, the warriors, said, “Dear God, I wish I could have been on one of those planes. Maybe I could have made a difference.” When you are truly transformed into a warrior and have truly invested yourself into warriorhood, you want to be there. You want to be able to make a difference.

While there is nothing morally superior about the sheepdog, the warrior, he does have one real advantage. Only one. He is able to survive and thrive in an environment that destroys 98 percent of the population.

There was research conducted a few years ago with individuals convicted of violent crimes. These cons were in prison for serious, predatory acts of violence: assaults, murders and killing law enforcement officers. The vast majority said that they specifically targeted victims by body language: slumped walk, passive behavior and lack of awareness. They chose their victims like big cats do in Africa, when they select one out of the herd that is least able to protect itself.

However, when there were cues given by potential victims that indicated they would not go easily, the cons said that they would walk away. If the cons sensed that the target was a "counter-predator," that is, a sheepdog, they would leave him alone unless there was no other choice but to engage.

One police officer told me that he rode a commuter train to work each day. One day, as was his usual, he was standing in the crowded car, dressed in blue jeans, T-shirt and jacket, holding onto a pole and reading a paperback. At one of the stops, two street toughs boarded, shouting and cursing and doing every obnoxious thing possible to intimidate the other riders. The officer continued to read his book, though he kept a watchful eye on the two punks as they strolled along the aisle making comments to female passengers, and banging shoulders with men as they passed.

As they approached the officer, he lowered his novel and made eye contact with them. “You got a problem, man?” one of the IQ-challenged punks asked. “You think you’re tough, or somethin’?” the other asked, obviously offended that this one was not shirking away from them.

“As a matter of fact, I am tough,” the officer said, calmly and with a steady gaze.

The two looked at him for a long moment, and then without saying a word, turned and moved back down the aisle to continue their taunting of the other passengers, the sheep.

Some people may be destined to be sheep and others might be genetically primed to be wolves or sheepdogs. But I believe that most people can choose which one they want to be, and I’m proud to say that more and more Americans are choosing to become sheepdogs.

Seven months after the attack on September 11, 2001, Todd Beamer was honored in his hometown of Cranbury, New Jersey. Todd, as you recall, was the man on Flight 93 over Pennsylvania who called on his cell phone to alert an operator from United Airlines about the hijacking. When he learned of the other three passenger planes that had been used as weapons, Todd dropped his phone and uttered the words, “Let’s roll,” which authorities believe was a signal to the other passengers to confront the terrorist hijackers. In one hour, a transformation occurred among the passengers--athletes, business people and parents--from sheep to sheepdogs and together they fought the wolves, ultimately saving an unknown number of lives on the ground.


“Do you have any idea how hard it would be to live with yourself after that?”



"here is no safety for honest men except by believing all possible evil of evil men."
- Edmund Burke in Reflections on the Revolution in France

Here is the point I like to emphasize, especially to the thousands of police officers and soldiers I speak to each year. In nature the sheep, real sheep, are born as sheep. Sheepdogs are born that way, and so are wolves. They didn’t have a choice. But you are not a critter. As a human being, you can be whatever you want to be. It is a conscious, moral decision.

If you want to be a sheep, then you can be a sheep and that is okay, but you must understand the price you pay. When the wolf comes, you and your loved ones are going to die if there is not a sheepdog there to protect you. If you want to be a wolf, you can be one, but the sheepdogs are going to hunt you down and you will never have rest, safety, trust or love. But if you want to be a sheepdog and walk the warrior’s path, then you must make a conscious and moral decision every day to dedicate, equip and prepare yourself to thrive in that toxic, corrosive moment when the wolf comes knocking at the door.

For example, many officers carry their weapons in church. They are well concealed in ankle holsters, shoulder holsters or inside-the-belt holsters tucked into the small of their backs. Anytime you go to some form of religious service, there is a very good chance that a police officer in your congregation is carrying. You will never know if there is such an individual in your place of worship, until the wolf appears to slaughter you and your loved ones.

I was training a group of police officers in Texas, and during the break, one officer asked his friend if he carried his weapon in church. The other cop replied, “I will never be caught without my gun in church.” I asked why he felt so strongly about this, and he told me about a police officer he knew who was at a church massacre in Ft. Worth, Texas, in 1999. In that incident, a mentally deranged individual came into the church and opened fire, gunning down 14 people. He said that officer believed he could have saved every life that day if he had been carrying his gun. His own son was shot, and all he could do was throw himself on the boy’s body and wait to die. That cop looked me in the eye and said, “Do you have any idea how hard it would be to live with yourself after that?”

Some individuals would be horrified if they knew this police officer was carrying a weapon in church. They might call him paranoid and would probably scorn him. Yet these same individuals would be enraged and would call for “heads to roll” if they found out that the airbags in their cars were defective, or that the fire extinguisher and fire sprinklers in their kids’ school did not work. They can accept the fact that fires and traffic accidents can happen and that there must be safeguards against them. Their only response to the wolf, though, is denial, and all too often their response to the sheepdog is scorn and disdain. But the sheepdog quietly asks himself, “Do you have any idea how hard it would be to live with yourself if your loved ones were attacked and killed, and you had to stand there helplessly because you were unprepared for that day?”

The warrior must cleanse denial from his thinking. Coach Bob Lindsey, a renowned law enforcement trainer, says that warriors must practice “when/then” thinking, not “if/when.” Instead of saying,“If it happens then I will take action,” the warrior says, “When it happens then I will be ready.”

It is denial that turns people into sheep. Sheep are psychologically destroyed by combat because their only defense is denial, which is counterproductive and destructive, resulting in fear, helplessness and horror when the wolf shows up.

Denial kills you twice. It kills you once, at your moment of truth when you are not physically prepared: You didn’t bring your gun; you didn’t train. Your only defense was wishful thinking. Hope is not a strategy. Denial kills you a second time because even if you do physically survive, you are psychologically shattered by fear, helplessness, horror and shame at your moment of truth.

Chuck Yeager, the famous test pilot and first man to fly faster than the speed of sound, says that he knew he could die. There was no denial for him. He did not allow himself the luxury of denial. This acceptance of reality can cause fear, but it is a healthy, controlled fear that will keep you alive:

"I was always afraid of dying. Always. It was my fear that made me learn everything I could about my airplane and my emergency equipment, and kept me flying respectful of my machine and always alert in the cockpit."

- Brigadier General Chuck Yeager in Yeager, An Autobiography

Gavin de Becker puts it like this in Fear Less, his superb post-9/11 book, which should be required reading for anyone trying to come to terms with our current world situation:

"..denial can be seductive, but it has an insidious side effect. For all the peace of mind deniers think they get by saying it isn’t so, the fall they take when faced with new violence is all the more unsettling. Denial is a save-now-pay-later scheme, a contract written entirely in small print, for in the long run, the denying person knows the truth on some level."
And so the warrior must strive to confront denial in all aspects of his life, and prepare himself for the day when evil comes.

If you are a warrior who is legally authorized to carry a weapon and you step outside without that weapon, then you become a sheep, pretending that the bad man will not come today. No one can be “on” 24/7 for a lifetime. Everyone needs down time. But if you are authorized to carry a weapon, and you walk outside without it, just take a deep breath, and say this to yourself... “Baa.”

This business of being a sheep or a sheepdog is not a yes-no dichotomy. It is not an all-or-nothing, either-or choice. It is a matter of degrees, a continuum. On one end is an abject, head-in-the-grass sheep and on the other end is the ultimate warrior. Few people exist completely on one end or the other. Most of us live somewhere in between. Since 9-11 almost everyone in America took a step up that continuum, away from denial. The sheep took a few steps toward accepting and appreciating their warriors, and the warriors started taking their job more seriously. The degree to which you move up that continuum, away from sheephood and denial, is the degree to which you and your loved ones will survive, physically and psychologically at your moment of truth.


The only problem I have with the description above is the assumption on the part of some that only policemen and soldiers can be sheepdogs. The armed citizenry is, by definition, the largest body of sheepdogs around. It's time we acted like it, don't you think?

14 comments:

Anonymous said...

Grossman also doesn't seem to acknowledge that some of our State-authorized "warriors" are actually wolves. Or, if you prefer, that some sheepdogs are happy to attack fellow sheepdogs when so ordered.

dubber308 said...

I've always had a problem with the sheep, sheepdog, wolf analogy. What I have a problem with is the sheepdog. The sheepdog exists to protect the flock for the farmer (the government) to fleece and kill. I have come to the conclusion that there is another option, the feral mutt that lives in the outskirts of the farm. The sheep are afraid of the mutt. The mutt is targeted by the sheepdog and the wolf. The mutt just wants to be left alone. And he is more than willing to use his teeth and claws on the sheep, sheepdog, wolf or farmer that tries to chain or kill him.

MPA-III said...

Grossman does acknowledge other warriors than police or military:

"I mean nothing negative by calling them sheep. To me it is like the pretty, blue robin’s egg. Inside it is soft and gooey but someday it will grow into something wonderful. But the egg cannot survive without its hard blue shell. Police officers, soldiers and other warriors are like that shell, and someday the civilization they protect will grow into something wonderful. For now, though, they need warriors to protect them from the predators."

No, he doesn't champion the civilian and does generalize too much on the police and military, but remember, they are his key audience. I mean, come on, when's the last time a patriot group or "miltia" has ponied up to pay for a Grossman seminar? How about 'never'??

The key is to read everything carefully.

Grumpyunk said...

I got the feeling that the target audience for this speech may be the reason that only Leo's and Military are given the Sheepdog title.

As for dealing with the "If only I'd.." feeling? That'd be bad. Reinforces my recent decision to carry all the time.

CHL Mom said...

Perhaps I am also to be thought of in an ill light, as I will not be caught anywhere without my sidearm. This includes business with a "No weapons" sign on the door.

I am more willing to plead my case with a judge than have my husband explain to my sons that I was shot by a deranged fool while cowering in a corner.

Forgive the self indulgence on your blog… I wrote this sometime back. It is the event that made me step up.

After work I stopped in at the corner convenience store. The husband and wife who run the store are the best. I walked by the counter prepared to chit-chat for a few minutes, asking about their son who is in the third grade, discussing crazy gas prices and plans for the weekend.

But, it was so different. They were edgy and the wife said, “No more bread. You go home now.”

She pointed to the door and said again, “You go home now.”

I know that my hood has dropped into the crapper. I am very aware of the little gangsters that are mulling around outside.

I leaned a bit closer and asked if she was OK.

She looked so tired, so scared… Life is beating the hell out of her and our hoodlums are wielding the stick.

She sounded so sad when she replied, “No more bread here. Just go, please.”

As I was turning to leave a punk runs in screaming at a guy who is leaning on the counter, “This is bull shit. I paid you for three and you only gave me two.”

The punk-ass dealer at the counter reaches in his pocket. At this point I am worried about a gun.

She had warned me, practically pushing me out of the store… Now, I was trapped. We were all trapped.
We all moved quickly to the back of the store. People have asked me why I am getting a concealed weapons license… If I could convey the helpless feeling, while crouching in the back of the little store, you would understand. If the jackass decided to kill us all, we would have been armed with nothing more than bottles of milk and juice.

As it turned out, the punk handed the other punk a bag of something and they cursed at each other and they both left the store. This was at 4:00 in the afternoon.

I will NEVER again allow myself to be so vulnerable.

jon said...

"Still, the sheepdog disturbs the sheep. He is a constant reminder that there are wolves in the land. They would prefer that he didn’t tell them where to go, or give them traffic tickets, or stand at the ready in our airports in camouflage fatigues holding an M-16."

certainly, but, come on! we don't need to pay for that, and paying for it reinforces the sheep's sheepiness. we need to kick a few sheep to the edge of the pasture and let them put holes in cardboard representations of wolves. they can grow into sheepdogs.

"The mutt is targeted by the sheepdog and the wolf. The mutt just wants to be left alone."

dubber308, there is no mutt. there are, however, wolves in sheepdogs' clothing. contemplate that.

the sheep, too, want to be left alone -- even those who talk big about not leaving others alone. deep down inside, all desire tranquility. it's just that they haven't yet found it in themselves, and therefore need to force it on others.

jon said...

anonymous has the idea down. some sheep condition other sheep into acting like wolves, because that's all they ever see the sheepdog doing. they do not understand the heart of the sheepdog, and they cannot teach that, so their students will not have it: these will become wolves.

grossman implies in his acknowledgement that soldiers and police are inherently warriors, but i do not believe that this was intended. "a warrior is a warrior because his heart demands it."

Kent McManigal said...

Cops are more likely to be wolves (or rabid sheepdogs). The true sheepdogs don't get paychecks for doing what is right. They do it anyway, knowing that the wolves, with or without badges, are all around just waiting for a victim.

Anonymous said...

His use of the Columbine incident is in my opinion a poor one. As the lambs were being slaughtered the sheepdogs stood around either stuperous or trembling. Worse when they found some lambs giving aid to a fallen sheep they forced them to quit the scene without providing continued aid and the sheep died.

tom said...

If you have a capacity for violence and no empathy for your fellow citizens, then you have defined an aggressive sociopath--a wolf. But what if you have a capacity for violence, and a deep love for your fellow citizens?

Dunno if I'm a sheepdog or a sociopath according to those textbook definitions. I think there's a sliding scale because there's some people I have no love for and wouldn't bother saving. I have a deep love for the idea of liberty and a constitutional republic.

I'm unable to love all my brothers. I refuse to love my enemy, no matter what the good book says.

FWIW, I own and have read Grossman's books.

j3maccabee said...

I must get the book!
A tough-as-nails DI - with a heart of gold, a deeply tender side toward his wife and his kids and later, grandkids - once said, "A good man doesn't kill because he hates what is in front of him; he kills because he loves what is behind him." I never forgot that.
I have sometimes wondered why some people return from a war with emotional scars that last a lifetime, and others return with the sense that they have done what needed doing.
I wonder about the minutemen of our nation's history... they were not professional soldiers, they were farmers and merchants, clerics and laborers... yet they were ready without question, to lay down their lives, or to take the lives of others, for the cause of freedom and the safety of their loved ones.
The humble hero Carlos Hathcock once said that he never enjoyed pulling the trigger and knowing he had snuffed out the life of another, but he said, that was his job to do, and if he failed in that job, then good American soldiers would never go home to their families.
I guess that I am saying, I know that we need to be honest with ourselves to determine what we are capable of; yet we cannot over-analyze ourselves to the point of paralysis. If the hard moment comes, we must be able to do the right thing with no hesitation, no second thought. If called on for the cause of liberty, may we stand and deliver.

Qi Ji Guang said...

Sheep, wolves, and sheepdogs.

Your writing skills will PWN any so-called "columnist" of the freedom-hating "media"

The first time I read your sheep and wolf analogies in the "Handgun" essay, I just can't stop saying "wow"

The analogy reminds me of another essy written in the 1960s by the name of "O' Rotten Gotham", where a behavioral scientist compares New Yorkers' lives to that of Norway Rats living in an overcrowded pen. The behavioral scientist described a trend in the rats where "King" rats, (the big and powerful) rats climbed to the top of the heirarchy, hoarding all the food and water, and oppressing the lower rats. The King rats lived in luxury, while the weaker rats starved and became ill. The behavioral scientist compares the King rats to elitist politicians. Absolutely hilarious to read and so true too!

Saladman said...

Good stuff. I've never found anything to argue with in Grossman's writing itself. I have seen the title "sheepdog" claimed by people who I wouldn't quite dignify by that name, particularly a few police officers who demand respect for putting their lives on the line "to do what you wouldn't," or something similar. Screw that; such people don't know me, and they don't know or understand a sizeable minority of the civilian population of the US. So its an analogy I don't use all that much myself for fear of being misunderstood, but I do agree with Grossman's point.

Anonymous said...

Let's face it, when the government becomes the Wolves, the lovely analogy just falls apart.

And I resent the "if authorized to carry a weapon..."

I live in California. Since I am not Dianne Feinstein, I cannot GET a license to carry. So it's: be an "outlaw" or be a victim.

I ain't a victim.